Couples Therapy
For couples who’ve been through something real — and want to find their way back to each other.
This is not your average couples therapy.
Many couples come to us carrying more than conflict — they're navigating addiction, betrayal, trauma, and years of rupture that have left both partners feeling hurt, exhausted, and unsure if repair is even possible. Our work with couples is structured, honest, and built for the complexity you're actually living with.
Couples therapy here is organized around three core principles:
Safety first.
Before any real work can happen, both partners need to feel safe enough to be honest. We establish clear agreements and boundaries early so that the therapy room doesn't become another place where things escalate or go unresolved.
Accountability without blame.
Lasting repair requires both partners to take ownership of their impact — not to assign fault, but to understand how each person has contributed to the dynamic and what each is willing to change. This is hard work, and we don't shy away from it.
Repair as a practice.
Healing a relationship isn't a single breakthrough moment — it's a series of small, intentional choices to show up differently. We help couples build the skills and habits that make repair possible, not just in session, but in everyday life.
How We Work
We draw on a range of evidence-based approaches designed for the specific challenges complex couples face.
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Developed from decades of research on what makes relationships succeed or fail, the Gottman Method helps couples identify the patterns — criticism, contempt, defensiveness, stonewalling — that erode connection over time. We use it to build friendship, manage conflict more effectively, and create shared meaning in the relationship.
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RLT is a direct, relational approach that addresses the ways patriarchy, family of origin wounds, and adaptive survival strategies show up in intimate relationships. It's particularly effective for couples where one or both partners struggle with grandiosity, shame, or deep relational disconnection — patterns that are common in addiction and trauma.
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Narrative therapy helps couples examine the stories they've been telling about themselves, each other, and the relationship — and separate those stories from their identities. When a couple has been through betrayal or addiction, the dominant narrative can become one of damage and distrust. Narrative work opens space for a different story to emerge.
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CBCT focuses on the thoughts, assumptions, and behaviors that keep couples stuck in painful cycles. It's a structured, skills-based approach that helps partners communicate more clearly, interpret each other more charitably, and respond to conflict in ways that move toward resolution rather than rupture.
Repair is possible. We’ve seen it.
If you're not sure whether your relationship can survive what it's been through, you're not alone — and you don't have to have that answer yet. Reach out and let's talk about where you are and what might be possible.